Comments for Original Success with Caryn Reddick http://caryninc.com Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:49:02 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Conflict management for your mind by Caryn http://caryninc.com/2010/03/09/conflict-management-for-your-mind/#comment-53 Caryn Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:49:02 +0000 http://caryninc.com/?p=840#comment-53 Thanks, Carly! Yes, please let me know how it goes when you try it. I like the idea of tying this in to negotiation. Mediation and negotiation techniques are very similar, and I think a lot of people are more familiar with negotiation. Caryn Thanks, Carly! Yes, please let me know how it goes when you try it. I like the idea of tying this in to negotiation. Mediation and negotiation techniques are very similar, and I think a lot of people are more familiar with negotiation.

Caryn

]]> Comment on Conflict management for your mind by Carly Goldsmith http://caryninc.com/2010/03/09/conflict-management-for-your-mind/#comment-52 Carly Goldsmith Tue, 09 Mar 2010 20:59:22 +0000 http://caryninc.com/?p=840#comment-52 Caryn - I am intrigued by this concept. It made me think about the negotiation book, Getting To Yes and some relationships systems work I'v studied and how they teach that in order to move forward towards a win-win, you need to get the opposing parties onto the same side so they have a shared goal to work towards. Although I see the value of doing this with individuals, I have never thought of applying them to the different voices within ourselves. These voices are valid and valuable parts of who we are as human beings and if we can get them on the same side working towards a shared goal, imagine the potential?!?! I'm going to play with this concept this week and will keep you posted on how it turns out. Thank you so much for taking a familiar concept and turning it on its head to apply it in new ways! Carly Caryn -
I am intrigued by this concept. It made me think about the negotiation book, Getting To Yes and some relationships systems work I’v studied and how they teach that in order to move forward towards a win-win, you need to get the opposing parties onto the same side so they have a shared goal to work towards. Although I see the value of doing this with individuals, I have never thought of applying them to the different voices within ourselves. These voices are valid and valuable parts of who we are as human beings and if we can get them on the same side working towards a shared goal, imagine the potential?!?!
I’m going to play with this concept this week and will keep you posted on how it turns out.
Thank you so much for taking a familiar concept and turning it on its head to apply it in new ways!
Carly

]]> Comment on What we can learn from whales by Conflict management for your mind « Original Success with Caryn Reddick http://caryninc.com/2009/09/21/what-we-can-learn-from-whales/#comment-51 Conflict management for your mind « Original Success with Caryn Reddick Tue, 09 Mar 2010 17:14:26 +0000 http://fourleafdecisions.com/?p=146#comment-51 [...] 2010 March 9 tags: Hypnosis, Intramind Mediation, Mediation, Parts Therapy by Caryn In a post last September, I introduced a concept called “intramind mediation”. Mediation is a process [...] [...] 2010 March 9 tags: Hypnosis, Intramind Mediation, Mediation, Parts Therapy by Caryn In a post last September, I introduced a concept called “intramind mediation”. Mediation is a process [...]

]]> Comment on Fear is a four letter word by Carly Goldsmith http://caryninc.com/2010/02/16/fear-is-a-four-letter-word/#comment-50 Carly Goldsmith Mon, 22 Feb 2010 22:40:46 +0000 http://caryninc.com/?p=749#comment-50 Fear seems to be in the air (or maybe its me??) This is the second blog post I've read today on the topic. And the biggest takeaway I have from both is the question, what would I do if I took fear out of the equation? I'm going to have to sit with that one a while and figure out what I need to get past. Because all these messages can't be a mere coincidence! Thanks for a great post Caryn! Fear seems to be in the air (or maybe its me??) This is the second blog post I’ve read today on the topic. And the biggest takeaway I have from both is the question, what would I do if I took fear out of the equation?

I’m going to have to sit with that one a while and figure out what I need to get past. Because all these messages can’t be a mere coincidence!

Thanks for a great post Caryn!

]]> Comment on Are you the victim of a changeback attack? by Karen http://caryninc.com/2009/11/21/are-you-the-victim-of-a-changeback-attack/#comment-49 Karen Wed, 17 Feb 2010 21:48:30 +0000 http://caryninc.com/?p=646#comment-49 I love that this phenomenon has a name. I like Beck's advice - instead of blame, re-frame and realize this is a good sign. Something new is happening that has never happened before! You *can* change! I love that this phenomenon has a name. I like Beck’s advice – instead of blame, re-frame and realize this is a good sign. Something new is happening that has never happened before! You *can* change!

]]> Comment on Fear is a four letter word by Karen http://caryninc.com/2010/02/16/fear-is-a-four-letter-word/#comment-48 Karen Wed, 17 Feb 2010 21:25:32 +0000 http://caryninc.com/?p=749#comment-48 We must be vibing each other's thoughts this week in our posting focus. I love this post because it so about the need for deep interaction with a career path to know if it's right instead of staying in the "just thinking about it part of your brain. And, to follow from that, it's recognizing that the emotions are usually what holds people back from making a decision...not all the "reasons" that we commonly attribute to our hesitation (these can be obstacles as well, yes, but usually those reason can either be addressed through better experiential research, or cannot be truly "answered" unless you give the path a try). Phew! Anyway...wrote a new post based on your comment and this post at www.thejobofyourlife.wordpress.com ... Thanks for the inspiration Caryn! Love...the other Karen We must be vibing each other’s thoughts this week in our posting focus. I love this post because it so about the need for deep interaction with a career path to know if it’s right instead of staying in the “just thinking about it part of your brain. And, to follow from that, it’s recognizing that the emotions are usually what holds people back from making a decision…not all the “reasons” that we commonly attribute to our hesitation (these can be obstacles as well, yes, but usually those reason can either be addressed through better experiential research, or cannot be truly “answered” unless you give the path a try).

Phew! Anyway…wrote a new post based on your comment and this post at http://www.thejobofyourlife.wordpress.com … Thanks for the inspiration Caryn!

Love…the other Karen

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]]> Comment on Willpower by Caryn http://caryninc.com/2010/01/01/willpower/#comment-46 Caryn Mon, 25 Jan 2010 15:00:46 +0000 http://caryninc.com/?p=687#comment-46 Hi Karen, Great points. Sometimes it makes sense for me to push through blocks, and sometimes it is best to leave them alone until I have the mental energy to deal with them. You could almost say that if you aren't "ready", some part of you has a legitimate reason for NOT accomplishing that particular task right now. I suppose the key, at least for me, is learning the difference between genuinely not being ready and just being scared/lazy/unsure/etc. Not always easy... Also, thanks for mentioning EFT and Focusing. I have a very basic understanding of EFT but have not really used it. Sometime I'd love to hear more about your experience with it. Thanks, Caryn Hi Karen,

Great points. Sometimes it makes sense for me to push through blocks, and sometimes it is best to leave them alone until I have the mental energy to deal with them. You could almost say that if you aren’t “ready”, some part of you has a legitimate reason for NOT accomplishing that particular task right now. I suppose the key, at least for me, is learning the difference between genuinely not being ready and just being scared/lazy/unsure/etc. Not always easy…

Also, thanks for mentioning EFT and Focusing. I have a very basic understanding of EFT but have not really used it. Sometime I’d love to hear more about your experience with it.

Thanks,
Caryn

]]> Comment on Willpower by Karen http://caryninc.com/2010/01/01/willpower/#comment-45 Karen Mon, 25 Jan 2010 01:33:36 +0000 http://caryninc.com/?p=687#comment-45 I think this is brilliant because there are so many times I wonder WHY I don't do something that for all intent and purpose I know I really want to do. I've learned that there's ALWAYS something underneath - and it's usually emotional. You mentioned NLP. I use something called EFT (emotional freedom technique) that works really well in shifting whatever is in the way. I know that Focusing (www.focusing.org) also works well for listening deeply. Sometimes too, I realize it's about readiness. Like, I really want to deal with something in my life, but for whatever reason, I'm just not ready. And sometimes that has to do with emotions and sometimes it's just because the thing you want to do is a big project that will take energy (even saving money and facing your money fears - seems simple - but takes big energy to tackle). And we only have a limited amount of that precious resource. Anyway, love the quotes too. Thanks for an engaging post. I think this is brilliant because there are so many times I wonder WHY I don’t do something that for all intent and purpose I know I really want to do. I’ve learned that there’s ALWAYS something underneath – and it’s usually emotional. You mentioned NLP. I use something called EFT (emotional freedom technique) that works really well in shifting whatever is in the way. I know that Focusing (www.focusing.org) also works well for listening deeply.

Sometimes too, I realize it’s about readiness. Like, I really want to deal with something in my life, but for whatever reason, I’m just not ready. And sometimes that has to do with emotions and sometimes it’s just because the thing you want to do is a big project that will take energy (even saving money and facing your money fears – seems simple – but takes big energy to tackle). And we only have a limited amount of that precious resource.

Anyway, love the quotes too. Thanks for an engaging post.

]]> Comment on Willpower by Caryn http://caryninc.com/2010/01/01/willpower/#comment-44 Caryn Mon, 18 Jan 2010 22:15:37 +0000 http://caryninc.com/?p=687#comment-44 Hi Carly, I like your process - simple yet thorough. I almost went as far as saying that willpower doesn't even come into the picture... that the key is (as you said) focusing on why you want to accomplish something, figuring out the steps to get there, and then working through your blocks. I'm a great strategist, and I love creating lists of steps, so the first two steps are easy. It is the last step (blocks) that can bite me if I'm not diligent. Great quote. One thing I would add is the importance of knowing when you are stuck for a good reason. Sounds odd, but sometimes, for me, being "stuck" means I set the wrong goal in the first place. Thanks again! Hi Carly,

I like your process – simple yet thorough. I almost went as far as saying that willpower doesn’t even come into the picture… that the key is (as you said) focusing on why you want to accomplish something, figuring out the steps to get there, and then working through your blocks. I’m a great strategist, and I love creating lists of steps, so the first two steps are easy. It is the last step (blocks) that can bite me if I’m not diligent.

Great quote. One thing I would add is the importance of knowing when you are stuck for a good reason. Sounds odd, but sometimes, for me, being “stuck” means I set the wrong goal in the first place.

Thanks again!

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