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By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 01:54:13 +0000

Hi, Caryn. Thanks for kind words about the blog!

I am no longer in the Bay Area. After I quit practicing law, I moved first to Santa Fe, and then to Denver where I still live. I get out there once in a while though because my sister lives in northern CA and my dad in the Central Valley. Was just there last month.

I sometimes miss the Bay Area, but the traffic is so fast compared to Denver. When I lived there, I used to zip all around between the counties of Santa Clara, San Mateo, San Francisco, Marin, and Sonoma. I think things have speeded up since 1985. Or maybe I have just slowed down?

By: Caryn

Caryn — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 21:03:27 +0000

Hi Stephanie, Thank you so much for the info. Very interesting – I’ll be exploring it in more detail. I also love your blog – great to see that you are discussing both mediation and neuroscience. I see that you attended classes at Santa Clara University. Are you still based in the SF Bay Area? Caryn

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 15:11:34 +0000

Do you know about Bonnie Badenoch’s inner community or Roberto Assagioli’s subpersonalities? I think you will find both of interest. More here:

http://westallen.typepad.com/brains_on_purpose/2008/08/interview-of-bonnie-badenoch-on-being-brain-wise.html

By: How to Resolve Those Inner Conflicts « Serial Reinvention

How to Resolve Those Inner Conflicts « Serial Reinvention — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:33:04 +0000

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By: Caryn

Caryn — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:09:51 +0000

Hey Rebecca – I think it is a great idea to write it out – particularly since you express yourself so well in writing. I can’t wait to read it. Actually, you gave me an idea for another way to use this tool. Yikes. I think I may be a serial *tool* reinventor…

Glad you had an “aha” moment. Yeah, the opportunity to draw from both sides is often not obvious, particularly when the sides seem so different.

By: rebeccamacd

rebeccamacd — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:41:04 +0000

Gosh, I wish I had read this before our session this week! LOL. I would have come better prepared. I tend to think better on paper, so I think writing out these steps (and creating “characters” to represent both sides, will help me dig into the answers. The biggest “wow” step for me was the “Generate options that incorporate the goals of each part.” I tend to see everything as an “either/or” situation, when in truth, I need to find solutions that draw from both sides. That was definitely an “aha” moment!

By: Caryn

Caryn — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:49:02 +0000

Thanks, Carly! Yes, please let me know how it goes when you try it. I like the idea of tying this in to negotiation. Mediation and negotiation techniques are very similar, and I think a lot of people are more familiar with negotiation.

Caryn

By: Carly Goldsmith

Carly Goldsmith — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 20:59:22 +0000

Caryn -
I am intrigued by this concept. It made me think about the negotiation book, Getting To Yes and some relationships systems work I’v studied and how they teach that in order to move forward towards a win-win, you need to get the opposing parties onto the same side so they have a shared goal to work towards. Although I see the value of doing this with individuals, I have never thought of applying them to the different voices within ourselves. These voices are valid and valuable parts of who we are as human beings and if we can get them on the same side working towards a shared goal, imagine the potential?!?!
I’m going to play with this concept this week and will keep you posted on how it turns out.
Thank you so much for taking a familiar concept and turning it on its head to apply it in new ways!
Carly